Ayesha Curry Told the Truth – And People's Insecurities Came to Light

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Ayesha Curry set off a social media firestorm with her recent comment on Red Table Talk. Since then, we’ve all been subjected (whether we want to or not) nearly everyone’s opinion on her feelings, reflections and insecurities. (Even though we all have them.)

Here’s my takeaway: Men -- it's worthwhile to sit down with your woman and ask her how she feels about the situation, then and only then is it appropriate for you to develop a thought process around it. 

Everyone wants a long, loving marriage, but give no thought to the challenges that come with it, and how much emotional assurance, vulnerability and evolution will need to take place from both partners over the years for the love to continue to grow. 

She's a woman. She has children. Her body, mind and psychology have changed drastically in the past few years, and her husband is on the road half the year. 

Newsflash: at some point in every single marriage that lasts, each person will find someone else attractive; they will wonder if they're still enough for the other; they will be buried in insecurities (most of which will be valid), and your reassurances of love and support may not be enough for a certain amount of time. But when you take that vow, you say "for richer or poorer, in sickness or in health." That includes those rough times. 

I think the most startling thing I've seen is people crucifying her, which to me, is a mask for ignoring ones own insecurities. And to be honest, every single man in a relationship/marriage in which they truly look to honor, serve and uplift their woman has felt the exact same way too. Rather than criticizing her, we should use this opportunity to look introspectively and have a difficult conversation with our partners. Your woman WILL feel like this at some point, and understanding what may bring these feelings about, and how you might best serve her in these kinds of seasons of her life may very well be the difference between happily ever after and not so much.